Deep Inner Game with David DeAngelo and Dr. Paul Dobransky – DVD 7 (Summary)

Links to the full summary series
DVD 1 | DVD 2 | DVD 3 | DVD 4 | DVD 5 | DVD 6 | DVD 7

Back to Dr. Paul reflecting on what Rickard aka Billy talked about.

– Observing ego helps you make your change. Your anxiety is what makes you do impulsive things e.g. addictions.
– Doing the right thing will fill your courage tank. Doing the wrong thing will make it worse until you ‘decide’ to do the right thing.
– If you’re constantly draining your boundary from your resources, you will feel anger/addiction. To remedy this you do courage/well-being.
– The more you say no, especially to the impulsive things, the better you get at delayed gratification. There are studies on how this is such a good thing.

Lying and Dishonesty
– Sometimes we’ll throw a shield to camouflage the hole in our boundary. That is not being true.
– Being the person who agrees to everyone with opposing beliefs and values is an example.
– Stand your ground and be true to yourself.

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Quotes
– Of all the traps and pitfalls in life, self-disesteem is the deadliest, and the hardest to overcome: for it is a pit designed and dug by our own hands, summed up in the phrase, ‘It’s no use – I can’t do it.’ Maxwell Maltz
Paul explains how a belief is your table and data are the legs which are routed to the ground with emotional energy. To change the belief there are techniques like EMDR. You need to convert negative emotional energy. Another option is, you have a tendency to lump experiences together like negative experiences, so you set up another R.I.G. (representations of interactions that have been generalised). When you make a new future the past wont be that big. More info here: Psycho-Cybernetics Lessons Video with Summary by Dr. Maxwell Maltz

– Often the difference between a successful man and a failure is not one’s better abilities or ideas, but the courage that one has to bet on his ideas, to take a calculated risk — and to act. Maxwell Maltz
Everything that has been talked about so far. Persistence – Calvin Coolidge

– A man has as many social selves as there are individuals who recognize him. — William James
(Paras note: I love this one because I love embracing all the personas I discover in myself.) You have those many boundaries with each and every person you come across.

– When once you have tasted flight, you will forever walk the earth with your eyes turned skyward, for there you have been, and there you will always long to return. – Leonardo DaVinci
Once you kill the boy in you and you achieve the treasures of manhood you can’t go back. People who have achieved certain success or see what is possible you can’t look at things like before. (Paras note: I did a course by Tony Robbins called Personal Power after 30 days I was not the same person and didn’t recognise the ‘yester-me’. Another NLP thing you can do is stepping into your stronger self).

– Every now and then go away, have a little relaxation, for when you come back to your work your judgment will be surer. Go some distance away because then the work appears smaller and more of it can be taken in at a glance and a lack of harmony and proportion is more readily seen. ― Leonardo da Vinci
Paul talks about Poor Richard’s Almanac and the pie chart of how time is spent. The 3 parts ideally would be 8 hours each of work (left brain), play (right brain), rest.

– He who loves practice without theory is like the sailor who boards ship without a rudder and compass and never knows where he may cast. – Leonardo da Vinci
This is where you balance the thinker and doer. It’s important to balance.

– If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail. – Abraham Maslow
A lot of guys go ‘in the field’ with pick up lines thinking that is what will get them the girl or the right one.

– A particularly beautiful woman is a source of terror. As a rule, a beautiful woman is a terrible disappointment. ― Carl Jung
Idealisation. Putting that pum pum on a pedestal. Remember your mind will fill in the blanks if you’re given enough information. Then you end up projecting the perfection onto someone who is far from it. Good reality check here: Difference Between the Natural & Make-up Look. Also take Bill Burr’s advice on letting your other brain overrule your to destruction here.

– Who looks outside, dreams;
Who looks inside, awakes. – Carl Jung

(Breakthroughs from the Audience)

If your work speaks for itself, don’t interrupt. – Henry Kaiser

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