Deep Inner Game with David DeAngelo and Dr. Paul Dobransky – DVD 6 (Summary)

Links to the full summary series
DVD 1 | DVD 2 | DVD 3 | DVD 4 | DVD 5 | DVD 6 | DVD 7

Politics Boundary
– There are so many definitions of politics and The Prince is a good recommendation to deal with politics e.g. if you have dirty work to do, you hire a henchman to do the work so if anything goes off you are not to blame. (Paras note: Again see my in-depth summary on it here – Deep Inner Game – Boundaries, Politics, Ethics, Forgiveness & Individuation – Dr. Paul Dobransky
– Good politics is win-win deals and you decide what doors to open using this.
– In this case picture your boundary with doors opening to others boundaries that you’ve said yes to. You have your agreements.

Group Boundary
– If you don’t fit in with the group values you’ll be out in no time.
– It could be a group or company.

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Ethics
– Making lots and lots of decisions and using your observing ego to correct yourself will build good ethics.
– Learning to say no. 13 Quotes on the Power of Saying NO
– Dr. Paul talks about how an attractive woman was flirting with him to write a prescription which was not doing the right thing so he refused.
– It’s ok to beat yourself up for not doing it right but then you DECIDE to do the right thing.

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Forgiveness (More info here – Forgiveness or Just Letting Go – Sri Sri Ravi Shankar)

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Wussy
– You are burning a lot of fuel when you’re being a wussy. Lacking well defined identity and it’s for guys who needs a mommy or daddy.
– Your internal age doesn’t match your psychological age. (Paras note: Osho talks about how we’re usually stuck around 17 years old if we don’t work to mature or something along those lines.)

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Individuation
– Remember the previous exercise on looking at your baby picture. That’s a good place to start from.
– The more personal the more universal. The more you see flaws or good in others the more you see it in you. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

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Introduction to Richard aka Billy

Full post is here but I’ll summarise it further below – Deep Inner Game DVD Set – David DeAngelo and Richard aka Billy

– You can change your whole physiology with the power of your mind.
– You are not who you think you are, you are not who others thing you are. You are who you make yourself so start architecting yourself.
– Start using affirmations to change what you want and who you want to be.
– Talks about the importance of Milton H. Erickson and his hypnosis/NLP techniques.
– Be aware of the mind virus of comparing yourself to others. Focus on your path and where you want to go. (Paras note: I only look at yester-me).
– Your balance and boundaries are more important and be in a state where you’re happy to walk away no matter the ‘perceived’ loss. Example: Don’t stick around a hot person if they’re toying with you.

– Never let them see you sweat.
– Don’t put your self-esteem in other peoples hands. More on Self-Esteem here.
– Do not do things for others validation.
– You decide what you are about. Imagine how much happier you will be at the end of your days.
– Fail more, fail faster. Your whole life is your dojo.
– When you get angry, you can control your emotions before you get reinforcement of external events that control your emotions. Acceptance vs. resistance e.g. traffic. Make a decision to deal with it or accept. Imagine getting upset for the same thing every day and calculate the time added up.
– Mind being like a garden metaphor: (I love this bit): Everyday you have to pull weeds. Maybe you go through a time where you’re pulling weeds everyday. Then you go through a time where you’re hoeing ;oP. And after you’re done hoeing, it’s time to plant your seed. (Pull weeds, not pull YOUR weed ;op).
– There is a guy who dis-identifies himself from what he was when he grows so changes from Ken 1 to Ken 2, etc.
– Create a panic room in your mind where nobody can hurt you and you have your resources for yourself.
– Don’t beat yourself up and let yourself be human. Forgive yourself and move on.

Recommended Reading/Listening:
– The Prince by Niccolò Machiavelli
– Built to Last: Successful Habits of Visionary Companies (Good to Great) by Jim Collins, Jerry I Porras
– Emotional Resilience by David Viscott

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