Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps (Romanian Subtitrari)

Allan Pease – Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps (Romanian Subtitrari)

Pease’s have seized upon the enormous advances made by scientists in this field.

They outline how dramatic new research reveals that the wiring in male and female brains is significantly different and affects how we perceive the world and each other.

Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps explores this phenomenon, in the humorous style that we associate with Allan Pease.

Among the many things revealed in this book are:
– Why men focus on one thing at a time

– Why women can speak, listen and write simultaneously

– What men and women need to do to get on in business

– Why men offer solutions but hate advice

– Why women can’t reverse park

Summary:
– Most men can sense North in a closed room while most women have difficulty.

– Their brains are simple. They’re more organised while women’s brains have more connections. Remember the Nothing Box. So women can multitask while men can do one thing at a time. He’ll turn the radio off to read the map.

– Men are described as lunch chasers. Find a target and hit it. Estimate coordinates. Visual-spacial awareness. The number one brain skill for men in virtually every culture. Hence the crucial need to know how to get home and find north. Then get home and watch the scenery/screen/fire gaze. Fire gazing can be done any time and when he does this he is hearing impaired.

– They can either speak or listen. They take turns. They make sounds. Huh, ahhh, hmmmm. Women talk with each other at the same times. Over 30 countries women can do this. Speak and listen simultaneously on several unrelated subjects on 5 tones of voices and men can only identify 3. So most men think she’s talking the same subject while she’s changed subjects.

– For child bearing women, they need to know things at close range. Gathering things, being aware of the baby. Women don’t need a dominant arm and are more ambidextrous. Most men can see further but have tunnel vision to be able to spot the target. That means they can see whats in pantries, cupboards, drawers and things right in front of them. No cultural differences apart from eskimo women can parallel park north. Women have 60 degrees peripheral vision while many can see even behind them while looking directly in front ;oP She can see all the people in the group, hear what they were all saying and what they were wearing.

– She’s say look at the couple on the side but the guy turns his whole head to look. The wife will spot a woman in the distance while the man is still looking at a seagull. She has already evaluated the approaching woman and knows when the man spots her he’s going to move his head in her direction. And that’s how the fight began.

– Male hunting brain can mentally rotate things. 94% of air traffic controllers are men for this reason. 98.1% of air traffic crew are male. Not sexist, women are just not interested. 15% of women have the same ability. This is why women can’t park well or merge on a motorway or reading maps. Why watch races where men just drive in circles or what balls going in and out of a net. You want to destroy your day… give her the map and say ‘which way?’ ;oP She’s turn the map in the way they are travelling and look for landmarks. Don’t give the map to spatially embarrassed women.

– The number 1 skill for women everywhere is speech and language. 8-9000 spoken words endlessly. 5 tones + 42000 body language signals. Women have 25,000 communication signals output a day while men have 10,000. So by the time he gets home he’s done! He’s up for fire gazing/flipping channels. They don’t want to know what’s on TV they want to know WHAT ELSE is on. So what happens when she’s at home with kids who don’t speak? ‘Hi darling, how was your day?’ ‘Good’ (Thats 10,001). ‘Have you got the tickets?’ ‘Yeah’ (Thats 10,002). So she thinks he doesn’t want to talk and he just wants some peace and quiet.

– They use language for opposite purposes. Men – facts and data. Women – bonding and rewarding. So he has to say ‘how was your day’ or it’ll be a bad night. And so she tells him! Subject to subject, emotion to emotion, non-stop. His fix it brain feels like he need to fix all these facts and data. So it sounds like complains and he tells her what she should have done. She thinks she got interrupted. This keeps happening so she thinks that he won’t shut up while he thinks she can’t find solutions on her own. All men have to do is listen (or in my case pretend to listen). Change your face, hum and ha. Do the grunt which men do anyway.

– Men grunt when they’re interested. Men have turns so women should let men have turns. All women have to do is grunt. He’ll think she knows exactly what he’s talking about. If women don’t like someone or punish someone they stop talking and men love silence. Women use face and body signals to reflect the emotions of the speaker. So all women looks like they experiencing the same thing the woman speaking experienced. Men need to ask for feedback the same way… you poor thing, how did you feel, really, then what happened. DON’T DO IT WITH OTHER MEN! This is why women love talking to gay men.

– What should I wear solution! Funny bit (29:00). She’s already chosen before she even asked. If he chooses blue she’s ask what’s wrong with the gold. The real question is tell me I am beautiful tonight.