Correcting Mistakes by Sri Sri Ravi Shankar

This is a Secret. Do not defeat anybody 100%
When we argue with somebody, we want to win 100 percent. Ypu want to say, “Only what I say is right!” What happens if you win 100 percent? You lose. If you want to defeat somebody, do not defeat them 100 percent. This is a secret. DO not defeat anybody 100 percent. Then they cannot show their face to you and they start avoiding you.

When you defeat them, make them win a little. If they are fully defeated, they will have a big loss of face. When this happens you will not be able to correct them or transform them. So what to do? Make them win a little. Say that, “Yes if I had been in your place then may be I would have done the same mistake.” What happens then? Their mind receives some comfort.

If you only accuse somebody fully without giving some comfort to them, then they will get saddened and defensive and will not correct themselves. We do not know how to correct other’s mistake. Do not dump all the blame on them at one time. We recollect decades’ old blame and accuse them saying, “You did this and that. See what you have done?” They will then get agitated.

You will not get any benefit by making others agitated and becoming peaceful yourself. Such a peace will not last long. The unrest will come back again to you with interest and you will become further agitated. It is not a great achievement to earn peace. Protecting peace is very important.

You can earn peace by going off to sleep. Sleep well, get up and forget everything. Shake your hands and legs and be peaceful for sometime. But great skill is required to maintain the peace you have earned. It is necessary to acquire this skill in life. How do you acquire this skill?

Yoga karmasu kaushalam. That is why yoga is necessary. Yoga does not mean only doing asanas. Yoga also means – jnana yoga or the yoga of knowledge. When you are in devotion, it is called bhakti yoga and when you are doing service, it is karma yoga. Doing service without expectation of any rewards is karma yoga.

Yoga karmasu kaushalam. You should write this on the wall of your house. Also write something else – Samattvam yoga uchyate. There should be equanimity in the mind. But it is of no use if you only write it on the wall and it only remains there. Instead write this in your head and inside you.

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