Quick notes:
The Ultimate Success Formula
1. Know your outcome.
2. Get yourself to take action by deciding to do so.
3. Notice what you’re getting from your actions.
4. If what you’re doing is not working, change your approach.
Save time and energy. use role models to accelerate the pace of your success:
1. Find someone who’s already getting the results you want.
2. Find out what that person is doing.
3. Do the same things and you’ll get the same results.
Assignment:
1. Write the two decisions that you’ve been putting off which, when you make them now, will change your life.
2. Now that you’ve made a real decision, you must take immediate action. To do that, write down the first few steps. What are three simple things you could do immediately—right now—that would be consistent with your new decisions? (For example, if you decided to stop smoking, what could you do with the cigarettes that are in the house right now?) Who could you call? What could you commit to? What letter could you write? What could you do instead of your old behaviour? List the immediate actions, and then take action on them right now, in this moment.
People are motivated either away from pain or towards pleasure. And since avoiding pain is a much greater motivation you should focus firstly on how not changing your behaviours will be more painful than changing them and secondly how changing will bring you pleasure.
Assignment:
1. List four new actions you know you should take now.
2. What is the pain you’ve associated with these actions that has kept you from following through? Write it down.
3. List any pleasures you were able to get from not following through on these four actions.
4. For each of these actions, describe in a paragraph what it will cost you if you don’t follow through. What will you miss out on? What will you lose?
5. Now begin to associate pleasure with taking action by asking yourself these questions.
– What are all the benefits you’ll gain by taking action in each of these areas now?
– How will it enhance your life?
– How will it create greater joy happiness, success, freedom, or pride?
Write your answers.
Neuro Associative Conditioning (NAC)
What are some of the negative associations I’ve made in the past that have kept me from taking the actions I need to take to achieve my ultimate desires?
1. Get leverage on yourself. To do this, three levels of responsibility are necessary-you must decide the following:
Example: Get a weigh-loss buddy and promise him or her and a group of other friends that you will begin a strict regimen of healthy foods and enjoyable exercise. Further commit to them that if you break your promise, you will eat a whole can of Alpo dog food.
A. Something must change.
B. I must change it.
C. I can change it.
2. Interrupt your current pattern of association. You must scramble the old pattern of thinking and feeling; this is best done by using something unusual, such as making a radical change in what you say or how you move your body.
3. Condition a new, empowering association. Install a new choice, and reinforce it until it is conditioned. Any thought, emotion or behaviour that is consistently reinforced will become a habit (a conditioned pattern). Link pleasure to your new choice. Reward yourself emotionally for even small progresses and find yourself developing new patterns quickly.
Destiny:
1. Everything we think or do is a cause set in motion.
2. Every one of our thoughts and actions is going to have an effect or result in our lives.
3. Our results begin to “stack up” to take our lives in a particular “The past does not equal the future.” direction.
4. For every direction there is an ultimate destination or destiny.
Assignment:
1. Write down three neuro-associations you’ve made in the past that have shaped your destiny positively.
2. List three neuro-associations that have been disempowering you until now.
Assignment:
For each of the four actions you listed, do the following:
1. Get leverage: Write down 10 reasons why you must change that behavior now; then list all the reasons why you know you can do it.
2. Interrupt your own pattern: Design four or five ways to get yourself out of the limiting association—and do them!
3. Condition yourself by rehearsing your new behaviour: Give yourself a sense of accomplishment and exhilaration, pride or joy each time you do this. Do it consistently and rapidly until each time you think of this new pattern you feel good automatically.
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State:
Changing out state has tremendous power. We want to feel power, joy and passion and we can do it in 2 ways.
1. Changing our physiology: The way we move, breathe, facial expressions. The classic example is the sports person who wins. They’re hands are out and up, chest high, voice loud and clear. Breathe deeply and changing diet works too.
2. Controlling and directing the focus of your mind: To feel bad you delete everything good in your life and vice versa.
You can control:
a) what you’re picturing in your mind; and
b) how vividly you picture it.
The questions you ask yourself are playing a big part to so you can.
a) eliminate limiting, ‘endless loop’ questions; and
b) continually ask yourself questions that empower you.
Assignment:
1. Talk to a friend about something you love but do it in a dispassionate way like you don’t care for the subject or even hate it. Then change it to the passionate way you usually talk about it. Ask your friend what they noticed in detail.
2. Create 5 questions you’re going to ask yourself from now on. Keep them where you’ll see them everyday. Give at least 2 answers for each question every morning.
Values:
It’s important to make the distinction between means values (moving toward), which are simply “vehicles” or “instruments,” and ends values, which drive all of our behaviours as human beings. If you know what you value most, what you truly want most out of life, then you’ll find you can make decisions much more effectively and rapidly. Your beliefs determine whether or not you feel like you’re meeting your values—they can either limit or liberate you.
Assignment:
Do all 6 over the week so maybe 2 today and spread the rest out.
1. Ask yourself what is most important to you in life? Make sure you write down the feelings you’re after, the states you value most, such as love, passion, or happiness, as opposed to means values like money or business success. If you think you want money or business success, ask yourself, if I had that additional money, if I had that business success, what would it ultimately give me? How would it make me feel? Those feelings are the true driving force in your life, your “moving-toward values.”
2. Rewrite your moving-toward values in the order of their importance.
3. Make a list of all the negative feelings or emotions you’d do almost anything to avoid. For some people, this list might include rejection or frustration or overwhelm or loneliness. Discovering what you want to avoid will help you understand more about your drive. We are not driven just to get what we want. We’re also driven to avoid those feelings we link the most pain to, our “moving-away-from values.”
4. Rewrite your moving-away-from values in the order of their importance; starting at the top of the list with the one you would do the most to avoid feeling.
5. What has to happen for you to feel these emotions? For example, if success is one of your values, what has to happen for you to feel successful? (For some individuals to feel successful, they have to have a million dollars in the bank. For others to feel successful, they have to wake up, look down, and see that they’re above ground because they believe every day above ground’s a great day!) Similarly, on your moving-away-from values, what has to happen for you to feel them? (For some individuals, if they don’t achieve a goal one time, they feel like a failure. For others, it’s impossible to fail. Their rule is, “I would fail only if I were to give up. As long as I keep trying, I’m successful.”) It’s important to understand the rules you have for feeling bad, because often we make it too hard to feel good and too easy to feel bad.
6. Have you discovered any rules which limit the quality of your life? If so, which rules are you willing to change now to improve your life forever?
Beliefs
To change a belief you have to link enough pain to the belief to move away from it. Identify a new, empowering belief and link massive pleasure to it. Condition by rehearsing (mentally picturing and feeling the effect) over and over how life will be so much better and how painful it would be to keep the old one.
Dickens Pattern
Think about the belief and feel the emotional cost, relationships lost, finances, body, happiness, etc. What do you regret most with this belief. Step 5 years forward and see the cost. Then 10 years. Then 20 years. Come back to now and realise that you can change it before it happens. Change your physiology to the winning sports persons. Decide on the new belief. Close your eyes and think about it. What will they bring, how much happier will you be, finance, body, etc. Repeat the 5, 10, 20 year process. Compare both destinies and make your choice.
Assignment
Write down the new beliefs and how they will change everything.
Goals and the Power of ‘Why’
Goals create positive pressure. Write down all that you’ll gain from reaching your goal and what it will cost if you don’t.
Assignment
1. List areas of your life that are not where you want them to be.
2. Write down what you’d need to believe to consistently follow throw with transforming your life.
3. List the beliefs you’d have to hold to achieve the goals.
4. Write why you must change these situations and why you know you can.
Goal Setting Workshop
1. List your goals for personal development.
a. Next to each of these goals, write down the time within which you’re committed to accomplishing it, i.e., within 1, 3, 5, 10, 20 years.
b. Select your top three personal development goals, and under each one, write a paragraph describing why you’re committed to achieving this goal within the next year.
2. List your things goals.
a. Next to each of these goals, write down the time within which you’re committed to acquiring it, i.e., within 1, 3, 5, 10, 20 years.
b. Select your top three things goals, and under each one, write a paragraph describing why you’re committed to acquiring it within the next year.
3. List your economic or financial goals.
a. Next to each of these goals, write down the time within which you’re committed to achieving it, i.e., within 1, 3, 5, 10, 20 years.
b. Select your top three financial goals, and under each one write a paragraph describing why you’re committed to achieving it within the next year.
Assignment
1. Write one action you can take for each goal.
2. Take that action today.
3. You can do the rocking chair test where you imagine yourself much older reflecting back first, as if you didn’t achieve your goal and then as if you achieved it.
Here Tony asks you to review the 6 Human Needs before carrying on.
Emotions and Rituals
List 5 negative and positive emotions you experience regularly. Then write down the rituals you have and what you do in your mind to feel them i.e. what are the recipes for you to feel these emotions.
Overcoming Procrastination
Find out how you create the ritual. If you don’t do the thing what is the ultimate price to pay? How much more joy and how much better would life be if you already did the thing. Change your wording from ‘I have to’ to ‘I want to’. Start moving your body more to interrupt the pattern of procrastination.
Assignment
Develop a pattern to interrupt the 5 negative emotions above. Find out how you can trigger the 5 positive emotions. Write down how you get yourself in a ritual of procrastination and how to break out of it.
Anchors
It’s an NLP term for having an emotional or internal state associated with an external behaviour or trigger. It’s always happening.
1. Get yourself in a highly emotional state and put yourself in the peak of the state.
2. Do something unique over and over again to create the trigger.
3. Change state. Relax.
4. Use the trigger and repeat.
Swish Pattern
1. Identify the behaviour you want to change, and then imagine the behaviour in your mind’s eye.
2. Create a new picture of yourself, as you would be if you made the desired change.
3. “Swish” the two pictures so that the resourceful behaviour automatically triggers the resourceful one. Do this by making a big, bright picture of the behaviour you want to change, then in the bottom right-hand corner of that picture, make a small dark picture of the way you want to be. Now take that small picture, and in less than a second, have it grow in size and brightness and literally burst through the picture of the behavior you no longer desire. As you do this, say the word whoosh! with all the excitement and enthusiasm you can muster.
4. The key to this pattern is speed and repetition. Do this five or six times, as fast as you can-and have fun doing it! What you are telling your brain is, “See this. Whoosh! Do this; see this. Whoosh! Do this…” until the old picture automatically triggers the new picture, the new states, and thus the new behavior.
Assignment
Create a positive anchor. Chose an emotion you want at your fingertips. Rewind to when you felt that way. Link the feeling to a gesture and repeat. Then do at least 15 swish patterns.
Wealth Mindset
People don’t make it financially because they associate negative things to money, they don’t make having money a must, don’t have effective wealth building strategies, don’t follow their financial plan, rely on experts too much, financially complacent and allow a financial crisis become financial ruin. To fix this you can condition yourself to attract, manage and share your money and you do this by finding people who are getting the results you want and do the same things consistently to get the same results.
Assignment
Financial check up to see where your wealth wounds are to heal.
1. What are your most limiting beliefs about absolute financial abundance and/or what do you associate to financial access?
2. What is a specific amount that you consider abundance.
3. Don’t leave any goal without doing a action after setting it up. Call a planner, create a plan, etc. (Paras note: You can start with Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki and Sharon Lechter and Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University
4. Chose a tiny action. Maybe spending less on something.
5. Make a list of financial terms you don’t know or understand.
6. Write ‘why’ you’re going to follow through to avoid complacency.
7. Write a couple of situations where you thought you’d not make it but you pulled through. Use this as a reminder.
Eliminate Financial Self-Sabotage
Write all the pain you experience because you don’t have the financial abundance you deserve. List words you associate with money. Write what you remember hearing about money when you were young. Write how better your life would be if money wasn’t an issue. Remove limiting beliefs by attaching new beliefs or ridiculing the old ones. Repeat the empowering beliefs.
Empowering Beliefs
The more I give to others the more money I receive consistently and ongoing. I must live in an attitude of gratitude and give more than I expect back.
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Wealth Building Vehicle
What do you love to do most? How could it benefit others so that they are willing to pay for it? How could you do it to reach a multitude of people? How could you do it so that it remains profitable?
Assignment
For the next 10 days write down 3 ideas for increasing your income. This will open your mind towards economic opportunities.
Eliminating Fear of Failure and/or Success using the Erasure Technique
1. Get yourself into a strong, positive state and create a positive anchor.
2. Picture a big failure from your past and watch it happen as if it were on a movie screen.
3. With a smile, run the entire memory in reverse at high speed.
4. Now run it forward twice as fast to the end and stop.
5. Run it backward and forward repeatedly as fast as you can, each time making it more bizarre.
6. Now think about the painful memory. You should be smiling!
And finally, imagine having the success you want over and over again until it’s absolutely real for you and becomes a sense of certainty that is emotionally conditioned.
Assignment
Write what you’d lose if you don’t remove fear of success and what it’ll cost you if you keep indulging the emotion. List all that you’ll gain by using inner courage and faith right now.
Overcome Fear of Rejection
Decide that you wont allow it to control your life. Write the cost of it and the benefits of being free of it. Create a new set of rules to happen for you to feel rejected. Use the erasure technique. Create a strong positive anchor.
Assignment
Write 2 experiences when you felt you failed and 2 when you felt rejected and a benefit you gained for each. Use erasure technique for all four experiences.
Self-Sabotage
It’s just the brain trying to protect you because it thinks you are at threat. We do it with positive intent.
Assignment
Identify self sabotage tendencies. Feel good because your brain is trying to help you. Get leverage to make a change. Interrupt old patterns with the erasure technique. Rehearse achieving success and feel the pleasure of succeeding until the new pattern is conditioned.
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3 Ways to Create Self-Confidence
1. Change your physiology.
2. Control mental focus and the questions you’re asking yourself. Instead of ‘what if I fail?’ change it to ‘what is the best way to get it done and enjoy the process?’.
3. Change your core beliefs. From ‘I’ve never done it’ to ‘I can try my best’.
The Success Cycle: Potential > Action > Results > Potential
Assignment
Recall 5 of your greatest successes and write a paragraph describing each one. Use examples to remind yourself that you can always find a way.
Increasing Energy
Breathe right. Inhale deeply, hold for a while and then exhale for twice as long as the inhale. Physical activity is essential. Eat water rich foods. When you’re stressed drink more water, even before you reach for comfort food, drink water first. You can list everything you ate in the day and circle the water rich foods. Have salad with every meal and fruit for snacks.
Assignment
Practice the breathing 3 times a day. Do it for 10 reps. Make sure you’re adding more water rich foods. You’ll notice the positive change.
Successful Relationships
The law of familiarity makes you decrease enthusiasm and form negative anchors. Don’t focus on the other person when you’re in negative states. Don’t let arguments get out of control and use pattern interrupts. Be playful with them. Also each person has their own love language and need to be loved they way the feel the love e.g. physically, being doing things, by being told, etc. (Summary of The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts (Summary) by Gary Chapman) Give first and give what you want to receive. Ask questions that encourage love to be expressed. Be spontaneous. More info here – Making Marriage Work: Based on Scientific Studies (Summary) – Dr. John Gottman
Assignment
Identify what you want and don’t want in a relationship. Identify what the relationship needs to be for you to be happy with yourself and contribute to it in an effective way. Make a list of things you can do together to enhance your relationship.
Solving Problems
Manage your state to avoid overwhelm. Associate massive pleasure to solving the problem. Write the problem and spend 20% of the time defining it and 80% on the solution. Come up with the best plan and act fast. Notice what your current actions are doing. What would happen if….? Find role models get their answers. Problems are just challenges and opportunities for you to grow.
Assignment
Ask what is great about this problem? What is not perfect yet? What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it? What am I willing to no longer do in order to make it the way I want it? How can I enjoy the process while I do what is necessary to make it the way I want it?
Make You Life The Masterpiece it Deserves to Be
There are dabblers, stressors and masters. Decide what you really want, develop a plan and find a model, take action and be flexible. Keep a journal in your life – if your life is worth living it’s worth recording. Capture thoughts, ideas, emotions, insights and experiences. Master your emotional and mental states. Develop compelling reasons to continue to manage your life. Anticipate the challenges of life and use role models. Re-evaluate your life regularly. Become a team player – it’s the greatest joy so you can surround yourself with a team of people you care for, who inspire you to contribute and push your boundaries. Commit yourself to something bigger than yourself.
Assignment
For the next 4 days, review the past 25 days and finish up the assignments. Pick your 4 goals and write a paragraph for each one, describing why you’re committed to achieving it and what you’ll lose by not achieving it. Develop a plan for the 4 goals. Continue to do the morning questions.
Affirmations
Total Self Confidence
1. I am resourceful—I have the ability to do whatever it takes to succeed and to support all those whom I love.
2. I enjoy life’s challenges and I learn from everything that happens in my life.
3. I live each day with passion and power!
4. I feel strong and powerful, happy and excited.
5. I have tremendous confidence in my talents and my abilities.
6. I meet every situation knowing I am its master.
7. I have deep respect for myself and for everyone I meet each day.
8. I am committed to perform with excellence in all that I do.
9. I forgive myself and others easily.
10. I am aware of the priceless value of my life and the lives of everyone I meet.
11. My confidence is unshakable because I live with integrity.
12. I am always at peace because I trust and follow my internal guidance.
Vibrant Health and Energy
1. I deeply respect my body and take excellent care of it each day.
2. I consistently think healthy thoughts.
3. I have mastered the habit of proper breathing and it gives me great energy.
4. I feel great pleasure from the health and strength of my physical body.
5. I eat and drink only wholesome foods and beverages.
6. I wake up each day feeling vibrant and healthy.
7. I start each day with an abundance of energy.
8. I have a deep sense of health and well-being.
9. I respect my body’s healing wisdom and its energy.
10. I will always feel and look young and healthy.
11. I have an abundance of energy available for all that I must do.
12. I retire each night feeling grateful for my vibrant health and energy.
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Unlimited Financial Success
1. I was born to share freely in the abundance of my life.
2. I have much to give and I share it freely with others each and every day.
3. My work is a great contribution to others, and I am richly rewarded for it.
4. I attract and enjoy greater financial abundance each day.
5. I am a giver and what I give comes back to me multiplied many fold.
6. I am deeply grateful for every day and for all the great abundance in my life.
7. My gratitude opens me up to unlimited financial success.
8. I am aware of, and I experience, all the wealth that surrounds me every day.
9. The wealth of my Creator circulates throughout my life—His wealth flows to me in avalanches of abundance.
10. I feel prosperous and I think prosperous thoughts.
11. I share in the unlimited resources of my life.
12. I handle and invest my money wisely and I profit daily.
Getting Into Action!
1. I enjoy the pleasure of using my personal power to benefit myself and others.
2. I feel great pleasure as I take massive action to accomplish my goals.
3. I am in the habit of taking action, so it’s effortless for me.
4. I make the most of my time each and every day.
5. I feel the joyful pulse of life as I take consistent action to shape and achieve my destiny.
6. I am a “do-it-now!” person, and I make my time serve me.
7. I’m eager to get into action as I wake up each day.
8. I am deeply fulfilled as I use my personal power wisely.
9. I feel strong and powerful as I take consistent action to accomplish my purpose.
10. I feel grateful for my personal power and the abundance I enjoy.
11. I enjoy greater and greater success because I take consistent action to achieve my goals.
12. I feel great freedom and pleasure as I get into action each day.
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Assignment
After reading the 6 Human Needs (opens on separate page).
1. What is something you love to do? Totally fulfilling and could do 24 hours a day. Describe it and see how it fits in the human needs scale.
2. What something you hate to do? You should do it but never gets done. Describe it and see how it fits in the human needs scale.
3. Take the thing you hate to do but is good for you and others and turn it into something you’d love to do. Ask what could you choose to believe about it that will make it fulfil each of your needs at the highest possible level. Write it and go do it.
Powertalk!
Dr. Stephen Covey
Our value system shows in our habits/organizations practices. The mission statement focuses on physical, economic, social and psychological well-being. 7 Habits – 1. Take responsibility for your own life. 2. Decide what your life is about. 3. Live in accordance with what your life is about. 4. Treat other people with great respect and dignity. 5. Listen to others first. 6. Use synergy. 7. Hone your skills.
Dr. Deepak Chopra
The body produces all the drugs that the pharmacy does. Social conditioning is why we forgot to use the intelligence our body has and if you can reconnect with these processes 95% of all diseases will go. We believe our beliefs are a by-product of our bodies when it’s the other way around. We create body and mind and through them we create our experience of the world. Your body renews every year. There is no reality only perception of reality.
Dr. Barbara DeAngelis
People leave relationships these day and not make real commitment. They never handle the problem. Tell the truth, ask for what you really want. Take account of all the things you’re hurt and angry about. Write a love letter to get in touch with what you really want. Exchange letters and read them so to understand how the other feels. Read books, find exercises, go to workshops to improve the relationship. Make it a priority.
Dr. John Gray (Men Are From Mars & Women Are From Venus Summary, What Your Mother Couldn’t Tell You & Your Father Didn’t Know Summary)
Imagine men are from one planet and women are from another. They’ve both come to Earth to UNDERSTAND each other. Remember opposites attract and who has more differences than these two. Woman wants to talk, man doesn’t. When man hears a problem he just wants to fix it, woman just wants him to listen. Just pay attention and don’t take things personally or don’t offer solutions. Women are more process oriented and men are goal oriented. Women want talk while men want to act first.
CONTENTS
Welcome to Personal Power!
DAY 1 – The Key to Personal Power
DAY 2 – The Controlling Force That Directs Your Life
DAY 3 – Taking Control: The First Step
DAY 4 – The Science of Success Conditioning: Neuro-Associative Conditioning (NAC)
DAYS 5-7 – What Everyone Wants and How You Can Get It!
DAY 8 – The Power of Focus
DAY 9 – Values and Beliefs: The Source of Success or Failure
DAY 10 – How to Take Complete Control of Your Life
DAY 11 – The Power of “Why”
DAYS 12-14 – Creating Your Future: The Goal Setting Workshop
DAY 15 – Success Conditioning: The Power of Rituals
DAY 16 – Anchoring Yourself to Success
DAY 17 – How to Condition Yourself for Wealth
DAY 18 – Ending Financial Self-Sabotage
DAYS 19-21 – Overcoming Fears of Failure and Success, and Overcoming Fear of Rejection
DAY 22 – Eliminating Self-Sabotage and Creating Unstoppable Self-Confidence
DAY 23 – How to Increase Your Energy
DAY 24 – The Power of Successful Relationships
DAY 25 – How to Solve Problems Quickly and Effectively
DAYS 26-30 – My Personal Challenge to You
SUBLIMINAL – Total Self-Confidence and Vibrant Health and Energy
SUBLIMINAL – Unlimited Financial Success and Getting into Action!
BONUS – POWER TALK’s The Driving Force: The Six Human Needs
BONUS – POWER TALK’s Meetings With Masters
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